“What lights you up inside? What really brings you joy?” Someone once asked me this question and I used to be able to readily give an honest answer. And then everyday life crept in; and routine settled in; and that gave way to boredom, lifelessness, and just going through the motions, and I lost my sense of true north- of just what makes me who I am and the things I love to do. Responsibilities have to come first most of the time. Laundry will keep, but the 3 beautiful souls I’ve been entrusted with don’t have a modicum of patience when their blood sugar is low and it’s nearing lunch time- they have to come first. But if I’m not to lose who I am in the midst of pouring into the small ones, I have to take some time for myself too, as Mufasa said to Simba (if you don’t know this reference, please come to my house for Friday night dinner and a movie), “Remember who you are.” This is so critical for joy!
I have been blessed with an amazing family and home and I am so thankful for them, but I still need to take time for me, even amidst all those other things that barrage my mind to be done by day’s end. I can’t be the person I want to be for my children and husband without taking time to recharge myself. As much as I need time to do something I love, I also desperately need to have a community, a village of other ladies of all ages and walks of life to surround me and speak truth to me and encourage me and help me bear my burdens some days. Because, if we’re honest, some days the thought of doing the routine again is just awful. Some days I can’t see the value of who I am and what I’m doing; but an encouraging word from someone else who is ‘in the trenches’, or a cup of 8 times reheated coffee with a friend who has ‘been there, done that’ is enough to remind me that I’m not alone and isolated as I might believe sometimes. You may have heard the story of the African tribe where when one of the tribe members does something wrong, they put that person in the middle of the tribe and then remind the wrongdoer of who they are. The story says the tribe members speak every good thing, every strength, every kindness, every positive thing they can recall about this person as they surround them and then restore them to the tribe. They help this person remember who they are and help bring them back to a place of joy and love (whether or not this story is factual seems to be up for debate, but I can only imagine how awesome it would be if it were true!).
This is why we need to journey into joy: to be fully who we are and who we want to be, and to not get lost in the process. This takes others who not only want to have a friend but those who will be a friend as well. It takes a group of people to show us the way back to the path when things get in our way. It takes a group of people who will lovingly guide us back to the place we need to be. Sometimes joy is easy to grab ahold of, and sometimes we need to be reminded of how to get there. I know I want to be part of a group of people who help make life meaningful in the mundane.
I would love to hear from you: what are some ways you have found that help you restore your joy? What helps you recharge and find rest?
Hope to hear from you!
So many negative thoughts and words these days.
Mother Theresa said it best👆
When we are are so busy with our negativity and hate we leave no room for compassion and love.
Choose to love even when it hurts.
Its hard to experience disappointment or suffering and pain but,my friends I promise you there can be good found woven in to all these things. We go through different times in our lives and can feel stuck or just plain disappointed at where we are. We feel unseen or even helpless at times. I want to take a moment to speak to you where you’re at today.
First,to the disappointed ones- . The growth found in the waiting. The character that was carved through patience. The strength that was formed in the unknowing. There’s hope and something better awaits you in perfect time! Don’t give up.
Next,to those struggling with sickness or with loved ones who are .I ask you to cling on to hope and have open arms to receive help when help is given.To let compassion and sympathy for others grow in your heart. To see the love that fights and stands by your bedside. To allow something greater than all of us to bring rest to your weary heart.We can find glimpses of good whether its found in a home cooked meal brought over by a neighbor, or the reconnecting of a relationship during this difficult time. These small moments are nothing less than good to be received and cherished.
To the underappreciated worker- you are seen! Your hardwork will pay off in due season, and sometimes things done in silence speak louder than things done for mans approval.
Lastly,to the mama covered in banana that gave up her day job. And feels overwhelmed and grieving her glory days-
YOU’RE doing great things!
I know it’s hard ..but you’re writing the greatest stories ever told! The pages are filled with memories of fort making,finger painting,story times and sweet snuggles.Every child is a book for this world to read and you are the author. You’re doing a great job! Pretty soon that 3 yrs old that got into your plant and smeared dirt all over the living room will be a 23 yrs old college student. See the good in these hard days bestie they are gone
The days are long but the years are short.
Be encouraged friends
Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it isn’t good.
I pray that we would have eyes to see the good in our hard times.
Have you ever experienced good in a hard time? Let us know.. We’d love to hear your thoughts!
Happy Fall everyone! Days getting shorter leaves getting brighter. For alot of people fall is their favorite time of year. For me.. I’m a summer girl. Give me the sunshine and a pool or a beach! Now don’t get me wrong I do appreciate the fall.. I love thanksgiving and all of its goodness as well as fall bonfires with yummy smores, and beautiful colored leaves. But one of my favorite activities to do in the fall is to hop to our local farmers market. I pack up my sweet little and we meet up with my fellow mom squad friends. I love taking in all thats been harvested from the springs rain and my summers sun. I LOVE IT. Oh and there’s amazing coffee too! Who wouldn’t love that?! I hope you all are enjoying your first day of fall!
What’s your favorite fall activity?
Oh new beginnings. Exciting yet terrifying! Just as soon as we feel excited about something new its just about then when a wave of uncertainty rushes over. Some thrive on change while others cling to the mundane. I’ve found that there is a beautiful balance. The balance of blooming where your planted,and being opened to new adventures. That’s scary yall.. How do you live with open arms yet hold on? Oh and don’t even get me started on the Big D word… yea you guessed it.. DISAPPOINTMENT. Ugh this one hurts real bad! When we’ve tried something new,took a leap of faith, and it was totally not what we thought it was going to be. Thats the worst! We feel like a failure and afraid to dream again,but if we’d truly look deep into those moments of disappointment I guarantee you that we’d see good. Whether our strength was made stronger, or ventured to a place we’ve never known,maybe even met a new person that became a friend. It’s here where we have the choice to focus on the pain of the disappointment or open or eyes to the opportunity we were given.
As this next season is upon us I challenge us all not to grieve what was or what could’ve been, but instead celebrate the pieces that make our memories..
Here’s to new seasons and learning how to hold on as we let go!!
The Joy co.
This Monday is brought to you by COFFEE. Getting the morning nectar of the gods and telling myself… Self, This is a great week to have a great week! Alright ya’ll let’s set those goals and crush em!
What do you have going on for the week?!. What are you looking forward to? Any celebrations or date nights or really important meetings?!
Comment below we wanna share it with you and hear all about it!👇👇
I know.. I know.. this may seem a bit hypocritical as I post this. But we all need to stinking hear it..
Put the dang phone down and go make memories! Splash in the puddle with your kids. Make waffles with your hubs. Enjoy a coffee date with a friend. Whatever it is let’s make memories that don’t have to exist on our phone! Live and love in the moment and soak it up fully! This weekend make a memory that doesn’t live on a screen. Show that person they are worth your time and your eyes and scrolling thumbs!
Here’s to a weekend with our phones faced down and and our eyes up to take in this beautiful life! ||painting by jenna kutcher
Are you a morning person?
Do you barely make it out of bed? Or are you up with the sun?
I find that there is a stillness in the morning. There is a joy that can only be found in the starting of a clean slate. Yesterday had it’s worries and stress AND we can leave those there! Yesterday can have em’
Today, ahh yes, today I challenge you to take a few moments. Before the ups and downs of the day are thrown at you just simply quiet your mind. Focus on all that the day has to offer, and turn on your joy yo! Here you can lay down any fear or anxiety and pick up the courage to do all that you we’re made to do. You’ve got this!